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To People That Want To Start But Are Afraid to Get Started
So When You Get Right To It – Who Is Anxious?
I think it’s pretty much everyone.
We all do it at some stage. Can you remember standing poised to take the first step and… freezing up!
Yes I think we all get scared of getting started, it’s human nature.
We set out to get started – then this happens
A lot of us don’t like change. We like our routine, although we moan about it. But it’s comfortable and cosy. We don’t want to “Rock the boat”. Just keep calm and float.
You might think I write from a perfect point of view. I don’t I write from experience. Whatever I write about, I’ve done it and it’s been my truth.
So yes, I’ve stood on the threshold of a new adventure and just couldn’t step into it. My biggest fear was “Rocking the boat”. I had expectations to stick to. As weird as that sounds, my family had cast me in the mould of the useless woman, good for laughing at and making jokes about her stupidity.
And I worked hard at keeping them happy!
Not because I wanted to but because they’d leave me alone and I could get on and do what I wanted to do without them knowing about it!
But when push came to shove I couldn’t do it. Fear of failing, fear of proving them right. All of that would prevent me stepping out into my dream.
Loads of us have these tapes running through out mind. Maybe we’re not aware of it, or like me, maybe you were. It doesn’t matter either way these old tapes have the power to stop us dead in our tracks.
NAVY SEALS FOUR TIPS TO FIGHT FEAR
By Cristi Vlad July 12, 2015 This article is part of Quartz Ideas, our home for bold arguments and big thinkers.
Navy SEALS are trained to increase their mental toughness with the ultimate purpose of controlling their fears and being able to appropriately respond in panicky situations. The technique is called the Big Four and (as you guessed) it has four parts:
1. Goal setting
When you are in a stressful situation, your amygdala is firing like crazy. Emotions, fear, stress, you name it; it’s a total chaos. The frontal lobes can bring structure to this inferno through goal setting. They can keep the amygdala at ease. SEALs often think about their friends, family, religious beliefs, and other important things from their lives. The key point is to see something positive in the future (in the near future, if possible) that serves as an anchor to your inner balance.
2. Mental rehearsal
Mental rehearsal is also known as “visualization,” and it refers to continuously running an activity in your mind. When a real situation occurs, you are better prepared to fight it. Take, for example, Michael Phelps: Few people know that his training is insane. I have learned from Charles Duhigg’s book, The Power of Habit, that throughout his years of training, Michael Phelps followed the same routine over and over again, with the preciseness of an atom clock. From getting closer to the Olympic pool, to fixing his goggles, to stepping onto the diving board, then the jump, the first contact with water, each hand movement, and so on—all of these coordinated so accurately that he knew them by heart. They were part of him. Phelps’s coach used to name this routine “the track.” Now, in this track, Michael basically confronted all the scenarios that can possibly occur.
It was the day of the finals for the 200-meter butterfly swim at the Beijing Olympic games. Phelps was prepared. When his coach saw him enter the arena, he shouted at him to plug-in the “track.” Michael was already plugged-in. He was a winner even before getting into the pool. Everything in place, the way he knew it by heart: the diving board, the water, hand movements. But wait—something was wrong. Water started to enter into his goggles. He could not see.
When I first heard the story, I thought that it had a sad ending. However, Phelps was trained for this. He already had a scenario in mind when this would happen. Sight would not be a problem for him because he knew by heart how many hand movements he needed to make until reaching the wall. He played “the track,” and amazingly he won the gold medal, finishing 0.66 seconds faster than Laszlo Cseh, coming in second place. This is the power of mental rehearsal. Confront the bad situation in your mind over and over again, and it will come naturally when you face it for real. This is what many public speakers do. Even psychologists treat phobic patients by exposure to the stimuli causing the phobia.
We know from research (here or here) that the average person speaks to himself more than 400 words per minute. Logic guides me to say that it would pay much of a difference if these words are predominantly positive. These guys say that positive self-talk can override the signals from the amygdala. I’ve personally learned about positive self-talk from Brian Tracy’s book The Power of Self-Confidence.
4. Arousal control
This is more of a physical exercise. It focuses on breathing, and it requires to deliberately breathe slower as it helps counteract some of the effects of panic. Long exhales mimic the process of relaxation within the body. Long inhales provide much more oxygen to the brain which results in better cognition processes. Each of these techniques may not work when used individually due to the powerful signaling coming from the amygdala, but they can definitely kick-ass when used together.
These techniques can be applied in different contexts, such as when your life is threatened, or when the sweets aisle at the supermarket is threatening your waistline.
If you can’t take a leaf out of their book I don’t know whose you can.
Good luck dealing with your fears and remember, work on your dream, your vision. You’re valuable, so is your dream/vision.
STOP!DON’T BE A CHEERLEADER FOR SOMEBODY ELSE’S DREAM!